FP and I got hitched at the Douglas County Courthouse in Omaha, Nebraska, five days after I arrived in the US on a fiance visa. We were married by a county judge on his lunch hour, a favour for a friend of Nick’s parents, a lawyer, who, with his wife, were our witnesses, and the only people attending.
Three months later we had a religious wedding with family here:
A fiance visa only lasts three months and the reason we did a simple legal marriage was so we could get the immigration paperwork out of the way instead of being right up to the time limit and worrying. I always thought the second wedding would be the most important to me, but it isn’t. By the time it came around all I cared about was seeing my mum and my sister. I was too depressed by then to bother about much else.
It was a more joyous evening than the first one though! After that one we watched City of Angels in our downtown Omaha hotel room and I cried at the ending… and I didn’t stop crying, feeling the enormity of living thousands of miles from home away from everyone and everything I’d ever know. Not exactly the most auspicious of wedding nights! However, we loved the soundtrack to the film, and it did give us our song, Iris by the Goo Goo Dolls.
And I’d give up forever to touch you really speaks to people who’ve conducted a long distance relationship, and gone 8 months without seeing each other waiting for a visa! There are other things in the song too, which you can probably only really know when you’ve been depressed, which both of us have.
Whenever I listen to this song I can feel the overwhelming love I have for my husband. Love which grows year on year until those feelings I remember at the start of our relationship hardly seem fit to be called love at all.
I actually started listing things I love about him, and while he would probably have loved to read them, I found myself growing a bit bored and finding it a bit sickening! LOL! But he is fab in so many ways and as well as being my husband he’s a proper friend.
It’s a good job we don’t actually celebrate anniversaries beyond reliving lovely memories as FP had to work late! I know some people find us odd for not doing something (I don’t know why, I don’t pass judgment on people who do celebrate!), but we just don’t, it’s not us, and it’s especially not me! It’s interesting, I was watching an episode of Tribal Wives today and the western person asked about anniversary celebrations and they don’t keep track of things like that, or ages, or anything and it just reminded me what a social construct anniversaries are. They’re not actually a necessity!
Happy Anniversary, celebrated or not!
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When are we going to go on a mornings photography expedition? There are Pictures to be taken little sister!
x
Happy Non-Anniversary!
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Happy Anniversary! Remembering the moments and feelings is all that matters. We always ‘gush’ over all of our 1st’s, but we don’t do much to ‘mark’ the occasion. I prefer the day he proposed to the wedding.
Iris is a great song–and yes, much significance for long-distance relationships!